I need to address something that has been bothering me...
There’s this idea floating around out there that healing should be clean. That it should be linear. That it should be measurable. That you should eventually "get over it" and get back to normal. And honestly, I think that idea is damaging. Not just untrue, but cruel.
What has been bothering me is how our culture handles grief. The discomfort, the silence, the way people look away or offer spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity instead of real presence. The way we’re expected to keep going, to smile politely, to explain ourselves when we’re still carrying something we never asked for.
Let me be clear: you don’t get over grief. You integrate it. You walk with it. You let it shape you. And over time, you become someone new, not because you wanted to, but because life gave you no other choice. And that process? It is sacred. It is human. It is not something that needs fixing.
When I lost my son, the world didn’t know what to do with me. People wanted me to be okay. To smile again. To move on. But I was living in a completely different reality. One where my heart had shattered and every part of me was learning how to breathe again.
So I started asking different questions.
Not "How do I get back to who I was?" but "How do I love the person I am now?" Not "How do I stop feeling this?" but "How do I make space for what’s real?"
And this is why I offer the kind of support I do today.
Because I don’t believe in neat endings or tidy solutions. I believe in truth-telling. In soul-holding. In creating space for the full spectrum of your humanity. Because what you feel isn’t wrong. It’s wise. It’s part of the map. And if you can follow it gently, it will lead you back to a life that feels real again.
Here’s what I want you to know if you’re grieving:
You are not broken. You are becoming.
You are not failing. You are feeling. You are not stuck. You are healing at the pace of presence.
I know what it’s like to feel like your life exploded and everyone around you expects you to pretend like it didn’t. I know what it’s like to be strong because you have to be, not because you want to be. I know what it’s like to lie in bed wondering if you’ll ever truly feel joy again.
And here’s the most honest thing I can say: joy does return. But not through pressure. Not through denial. Joy returns through softness. Through honesty. Through learning to meet yourself exactly where you are, without rushing or judgment.
So here’s what I offer instead of advice:
I offer a space where you can fall apart without apology.
A space where your tears are not an inconvenience.
Where your story is not too much.
Where your grief isn’t pathologized.
This is not therapy. This is not coaching in the traditional sense. This is spiritual companionship. Emotional witnessing. Energetic alignment. The kind of support that doesn’t fix you — it helps you find yourself again.
The truth is, the person you’re becoming is not less than the person you were before. She’s deeper. Softer. Wiser. She’s learning to hold the tension of both/and.
Joy and sorrow. Hope and heartbreak. Faith and doubt.
And that person deserves to be seen, celebrated, and supported.
So if you’ve been carrying your grief in silence… if you’ve felt like no one really gets what you’re going through… if you’ve been told to move on when all you really want is to feel whole again — I want you to know: I see you.
You don’t need to be more positive. You don’t need to explain. You don’t need to be stronger.
You need to be met.
You need truth.
You need permission to be exactly where you are.
That’s what I’m here for.
To remind you that healing doesn’t mean being done. It means being with. It means letting your heart catch up with your life. It means creating a new kind of relationship with yourself and the world around you.
And it means letting someone walk beside you who knows the terrain.
This grief has changed you. But it hasn’t diminished you. It’s given you access to a depth that most people never touch. And from that depth, you get to rebuild — slowly, honestly, powerfully.
Not back to who you were.
But forward into someone even more whole.
If this resonates with you, you are not alone.
Let’s walk this road together.
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